Jul 30, 2013
I was listening to Michael Farris on courtship the other day, and he made a really interesting point. He said there's a big distinction between
a) looking at someone objectively and being able to say, "they are A, B, and C which I could very easily see marrying" or "they are X, Y, and Z which are traits I definitely *don't* want in a marriage."
b) having a crush on someone or giving your heart to them in any form.
This was interesting to me because I've always had the mindset of "don't think about a person of the opposite gender in any way that pertains to marriage". But as I've gotten older, it's been harder and harder to not at least analyze other young people that way. It was freeing to hear that it's okay to do so as long as I'm not giving my heart to that person.
Agree? Disagree? Your thoughts?